I have titled this blog "A lovely problem to have" because we have two children who are very close in age. Although many people see our family and tell us, "You must be so busy!" or "I can't imagine how you do it all!" we feel that we are so fortunate to have a family. Yes, there are sleepless nights, many diaper changes, and clever balancing acts to meet the needs of two very young children...but I would much rather have these issues than to not have them at all.
This is how we got here:
My husband and I tried for almost seven years to have a family. We went to doctors, had tests, took medications, had more tests, tried IUIs and even more medications. We reached a point where the next step would be IVF. Because IVF is so expensive and does not guarantee results, we decided to pursue adoption. More than anything else, we wanted to be parents. A biological connection was not necessary. We knew this because, near the end of that (almost) seven year experience, we had a foster daughter. She was in our home for a year and a half. We would have loved to adopt her, but she was reunified with her birthfather. This was crushing, but the experience showed us how deeply and fully we could love someone who was not of our own creation.
In the fall of 2007, we began our adoption journey with a private, domestic, non-profit adoption agency. We endured medical exams, financial statements, letters from friends and our pastor, home visits, and lots of paperwork. By November, we were matched with an expectant mother who was considering an adoption plan. That same month, I had surgery to remove what appeared to be a dermoid cyst on one ovary. The tissue turned out to be nothing more than scar tissue. Four days later, our first daughter was born. To our complete joy and surprise, her birthmother selected us to be her parents. Exactly one month after the birth of our first daugher, we found out that we were expecting a second.
Our daughters are nine months and four days apart. Having two so close in age has its challenges, of course. But we are grateful for both experiences and feel very fortunate to have a family. Finally.